So You Want to Live Abroad? A Language Teacher Answers Your Questions About Expat Life in France

What’s it really like to move to a different country? To start a new life in another language?To find out, my former student—and now dear friend—Michelle recently interviewed me about my own experience moving to France from the U.S.

Michelle is preparing for a big move herself, so she wanted the full story: the challenges, the triumphs, and the things no one warns you about.

🇺🇸 Q&A with James: American English & FLE Teacher in Vincennes

Michelle: Why did you move to France?

James: Well, I didn’t just “move” to France. It happened in stages. I first came as a student in 2007 through a study abroad program in Paris. I had taken years of French classes in the U.S., and I thought it would be a great opportunity to finally really learn the language.

That first semester completely changed my life. I loved the feeling of starting fresh—new culture, new language, new habits. But it was incredibly hard. I had visa issues, legal stress, and moments where I wasn’t sure I’d be allowed to stay. I went back to the U.S. for a year, but in my heart, I knew I wanted to return for good. By 2011, I was living full-time in France and teaching English at Paris 7.

James at a boîte de nuit in Paris in 2011.

Michelle: What surprised you the most when you arrived?

James: The legal stuff. I was totally unprepared for how difficult the French administrative system could be. Getting the right documents, renewing my visa, navigating immigration—all of that was stressful and confusing. No one really prepares you for that. I had moments of panic where I wasn’t sure I was even allowed to stay.

Michelle: Was it difficult to learn the language and adapt to the culture?

James: Absolutely. French is beautiful, but it’s not easy. What helped me was listening—constantly—and imitating what I heard. For me, it was like decoding a puzzle. I became obsessed with learning the “code” of the French language and culture. But it wasn’t just the language—there was culture shock, too. Some things were charming, others frustrating. And being a foreigner can be isolating.

James at the European Parliament when he was teaching with the SMU-in-Paris Program.

Michelle: What was the hardest part that nobody warned you about?

James: The emotional rollercoaster. People talk about culture shock, but they don’t tell you how lonely it can feel. There were many moments when I felt cut off, like I was starting my life over with no roadmap. Also, social integration in France is slow. It took me about six years before I felt that my life was truly rooted here.

Michelle: When did you start to feel “at home” in France?

James: Around year six. That’s when I realized that my references, routines, and even emotions felt more French than American. Today, I can’t imagine moving back to the U.S. I love visiting, but my daily life just makes more sense here. I know how to navigate the system, go to the doctor, pay bills, make small talk—things that once felt foreign now feel natural.

James' wedding cake. Notice the images of France and Texas !

Michelle: What do you love most about your life in France today?

James: The adventure. Moving abroad was the most difficult thing I’ve ever done, and it’s also the accomplishment I’m most proud of. It pushed me to grow in every way. I’ve built a life, a business, and a home here. I’m also now an English and French teacher in Vincennes, where I offer private tutoring in English and French, E-learning, and English courses with CPF—and I love watching my students become more confident with every lesson.

Michelle: What advice would you give to someone who wants to move abroad?

James: Start with the legal side. Contact the embassy. Understand your visa options. And don’t expect to feel totally prepared—you won’t. There will be gaps in your language, culture, and expectations. That’s okay. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about adapting. You will survive. You will struggle. You will laugh. And you’ll come out stronger than you ever imagined.

Living Abroad Isn’t a Dream—It’s a Journey

If you’re thinking about moving abroad, don’t wait until everything feels “ready.” It never will. But if you prepare wisely, keep your expectations flexible, and find support (ahem, like an English teacher in Vincennes 😄), you’ll build a life that’s not just different—but deeply fulfilling.